‘I haven’t finished the task yet.’ ‘Why are you so slow?’
A loaded question is judgement in the guise of a question.
On the surface, a question appears to indicate curiousity. But a question that implies a judgement judgement often doesn’t move us forward. It shuts down conversation and erects defensive walls.
Judgement and curiousity cannot co-exist, and it is judgement that crowds out curiosity rather than the other way around.
Watch out for loaded questions – both when you pose them as well as receive them.