A sneeze is involuntary. We don’t control its onset.
Yet, when you feel the sneeze working its way up, you can respond in several ways – to catch the sneeze in a napkin or your sleeve, or to sneeze right into a crowded room.
We don’t control our sneezes. We control how we respond to them.
We often blame ourselves for feeling certain ways – for feeling lazy on a cold morning, for feeling irritated at a colleague’s behaviour or for feeling like we are addicted to our mobile phones. But those feelings, just like a sneeze, are involuntary. We don’t control them. What we do control is our response to those feelings.
We don’t deserve any guilt for our feelings. We are only accountable for our response to them.
Responsibility is merely our ability to respond.