A competent colleague is productive – he get things done at ever faster rates. A competent colleague is also friendly and approachable. As a team-mate, his presence makes you feel better.
A competent doctor is clinical – her diagnosis and treatment is precise and efficient. A competent doctor is also empathetic. She has an ear for a patient’s concern and makes them feel cared for.
A competent life partner helps you channel your strengths and help you succeed in your endeavours. A competent partner also accepts your flaws and helps you accept them through kindness and understanding.
We often equate competence with what we do and what we achieve. We often forget that comptence is also how we make the people around us feel.