“She’s an honest person.”
“He’s not a good listener.”
“He’s a motivated employee. She is not.”
“My wife is a creative person. I am not.”
“I was surprised he acted that way. He is normally a calm person.”
Our language reflects how our brain interprets the world in binary terms. But integrity, listening, motivation, creativity and calmness – they aren’t binary. Just like muscles, they improve with daily practice and deteriorate with neglect.